Let’s be honest—dogs don’t speak English. Or French. They speak dog: a mix of body signals, emotional energy, and sounds. And while we’re babbling on in words, they’re watching and listening in a completely different way.
So if you’ve ever found yourself saying, “But I told him to sit!” while your pup stares back blankly—or worse, trots off—this one’s for you.
Tone of Voice: It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It
Dogs are emotional sponges. They might not know exactly what “good boy” means, but they know how it feels. Say it in a dull or irritated tone, and they’ll get mixed signals. Say “no” in a chirpy, happy voice and—well, don’t be surprised if they think it’s a game.
Upbeat, high-pitched tones usually say, “Yay! You’ve done something great!” while a calm, low, and firm voice means, “Oi, pay attention.” And shouting? It’s more confusing than helpful—your dog just knows the vibe has gone a bit wonky and might feel anxious.
So try speaking to your dog the way you’d guide a small child or a mate who’s had one too many at the pub—clear, kind, and confident.
Body Language: Actions Bark Louder Than Words
Dogs are brilliant observers. Half the time, they know what you’re about to do before you do it. Why? Because they’re reading your body language like a pro.
- Lean in too far? That might feel intimidating.
- Stand tall and calm? That’s leadership, mate.
- Bounce around like a loony? They’ll think it’s playtime.
Your dog’s always watching you. If you’re tense or flustered, they’ll pick up on it. But if you’re relaxed and in control, they’re more likely to follow your lead. It’s a two-way street—they mirror your energy.
Bringing It All Together
Communicating with your dog isn’t just about commands—it’s about connection. The way you say things, and the way you carry yourself, helps your dog feel safe, understood, and confident.
So the next time you have a natter with your pup, remember: it’s not just what’s coming out of your mouth—it’s how you’re saying it, and how you’re standing while you do. Be present, be consistent, and chuck in a cheerful “Who’s a clever boy then?” for good measure.
Because let’s face it—they’re always listening, even when they’re pretending not to.
I hope this is an informative read, if you want to discuss please email me at ian@justbemore.dog
